and on a similar note, i had a realization this weekend while i was at wiscon. i was on the "alternative lovestyles" (i didn't name it; it's not my fault...) panel, and magenta was talking about the theory (which i happen to agree with) that jealousy is frequently masking a different emotion, and that if you can figure out what it's masking, then you can deal with that instead, which is usually a quicker way to solve the problem.

i was never ever jealous until i hit college. not a bit.

now i get jealous a lot.

and now i know why.