vito_excalibur: glass bull in a china shop:

The assumption that it is, that I must not be alone with a man, or men, unless I'm prepared to fuck them all, comes out of the attitude that men are slaves to the dick and cannot be held responsible for their actions: I must be responsible for stopping them. This takes rape out of the category of things like war: things caused by human agency, things that happen because at some point, someone had a choice of possible courses of action, and he made the decision to fuck someone - over. The 'men are just like that & nothing can be done to stop it & women must just be careful' reasoning says rape is more like a grizzly attack in Yellowstone. You can't educate the bears. They're going to do what they want to do. It's your responsibility to protect yourself.

listen up, you men out there reading this. i think better of you than that. i think that you are capable of controlling your urges. i think that you are better than animals.

if you disagree with me about yourself, please let me know so that i can adjust my behavior around you accordingly.

(go read vito's post, and vito links to to amanda who links to pseudo-adrienne, and they link all over.)