this is probably tmi for some of you, but you're all strong and smart and can deal. (hi mom! hi dad!)
dear katherine kersten: you are a pinhead.
Here's another myth: that young women are as eager to hop in the sack as young men.
based on my own personal experience, which is a sample size only one less than the one ms. kersten draws from, i would say that women are *more* eager. because hello, have i ever been turned down a few times.
Surely, lots of women remember fighting off groping guys in high school and mashers at college frat parties. Sex with the average hormone-driven guy -- who sometimes can't wait to brag about "scoring" -- is supposed to be enticing or empowering to women? Give me a break.
it is neither enticing or empowering. however, i happen to think reasonably well of most men, unlike ms. kersten, and think that while hormones are a strong driver of people in general, it is in fact possible to be reasonable, adult, and caring in one's sexual relationshps, regardless of one's hormonal load or one's set of wiggly bits.
also, if having sex with "the average hormone-driven guy" is supposed to be unappealing, why in the hell would i want to marry him and *then* have sex with him?
ms. kersten, if you don't want to have sex with people you're not married to, that's fine. don't. and i am perfectly fine with providing support for other people who would rather not have sex until they're married.
however, i continue to believe that you do not get to enforce your viewpoint, and that people, especially young people, who do have sex when you'd rather they not, need support and help as well, and i am committed to providing it for them.
you go ahead and have your knitting instead of dating parties, and i'll keep volunteering at planned parenthood.
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I've often wondered if she actually believes what she writes. I tend to think its more about pandering to a 'demographic' in an attempt to sell more newspapers.
Then again, I do know someone who is a 'new religious' type. While she is very intelligent generally, her brain seems to get checked at the door when it comes to what her group has decided is right or more importantly, 'wrong'.
As for the 'myth', I wonder how she squares it with the statistics her paper printed recently on levels of teen STDs. While I don't recall the number just new, I categorized them at 'crazy high', especially given how easy they are to avoid.
The facts would seem a fair indicator that her 'myth' turns out not to be the case.
I'll also add that my experience is that yes, hormones do influence behavior. However, women did not get short-changed when it comes to 'load level'. I see this as 'fair and balanced'.
It would seem the 'just say no' plan isn't destined to work out so well. Maybe Kersten should write an article for 'Creator(s) Monthly' suggesting lowering the hormone levels in the next batch of humans?
Maybe that will make it all better.
Then again, maybe a complaint letter about getting short-changed might be more useful?
What I want to know is, what does Kersten think ought to happen to the people she says she's championing -- the ones who are waiting for marriage? Let's say they are happily and lawfully wed before they get nekkid together. Are they then supposed to have a baby a year until their bodies give out? Are they supposed to use whatever method of birth control the first doctor they see offers them, because they don't know what their options are? Is the rhythm method to become the law of the land?
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